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integral salons: what is the intent, really?

A week ago paul and dan wrote a few posts on integral salons. I'd love to see a continuation on this subject from all ye bloggers out there.. any takers? My own thoughts relate to the intent of salons in particular. Why salons, what are people seeking? Could the proclaiming of what we are looking for as salons actually limit the emergence of what could be, of what is being sought after with a craving so deep, that it has me wondering how I could even want something I've never tasted?

For the past year or so I've loosely held on to the overarching intent that we created for iNOW. And while it still rings as authentic, it doesn't point to what I am feeling. I want to convey the meaning and weight of what I am now understanding as a necessary step in radical commitment. The first thing I have to address is this word salon, which seems to imply a mere gathering of people with loose intentions that are largely (and usually) of an intellectual nature. No, this is not what I am looking for. This I can accomplish with a casual dinner party of eight at my place. And in the online sphere, it is totally tiresome to join Yet Another Yahoo! group, or social network, or forum, or other antiquated form of collaboration. I mean, hello! Welcome to blogs, RSS and the amazing usage of hyperlinks!

Okay so salons are out for me. Yes! I mean it!

And so perhaps all this talk of integral salons is besides the point. We need constellations of happenings, events, ceremonies, single chaotic puncture-points in the vast blank sheet of boredom draped over all of us...
Well see now, that's not it for me either. I mean that's certainly part of it, but not quite the big concept. If all we had were these one-time events, I feel that we would lack the intimacy of challenging each other. Every encounter between us would be a flurry of greetings and kisses in the air, with beautiful states of creativity and a smattering of small jabs here and there. There must be a deeper commitment to each other, a stretch for each of us, and an endeavor to sustain the connections between us. We grow to learn who we are chiefly through contact with others.

So what would be a word on the spectrum of commitment beyond salons? Culture? Community? I should hope it includes some form of both culture and community... What is the balance between the individual and collective behaviors? How does one allow for both freedom and security? What would be the values, norms and artifacts? And what of my generation of screenagers, how is technology all a part of this concept?

I have no answers yet, but I feel like ongoing posts like these are the first explorations of an accurate picture.
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How to Write Better in English and Also Understand Chinese



How to Write, Speak, and Think More Effectively by Rudolf Flesch

Although this book dates back to the 1950's, the fact that it is still in print is testimony to how useful it is. The author give simple and concise advice on effective communication and writing. Give this list of rules a read from time to time, to remind yourself of techniques to keep communication clear.

25 Rules of Effective Writing
1. Write about people, things, and facts.
2. Write as you talk.
3. Use contractions.
4. Use the first person.
5. Quote what was said.
6. Quote what was written.
7. Put yourself in the reader's place.
8. Don't hurt the reader's feelings.
9. Forestall misunderstandings.
10. Don't be too brief.
11. Plan a beginning, middle, and end.
12. Go from the rule to the exception, from the familiar to the new.
13. Use short names and abbreviations.
14. Use pronouns rather than repeating nouns.
15. Use verbs rather than nouns.
16. Use the active voice and a personal subject.
17. Use small, round figures.
18. Specify. Use illustrations, cases, examples.
19. Start a new sentence for each new idea.
20. Keep your sentences short.
21. Keep your paragraphs short.
22. Use direct questions.
23. Underline for emphasis.
24. Use parentheses for casual mention.
25. Make your writing interesting to look at.

Outside of the usefulness for better English, the surprising but stellar introduction "Let's Start With Chinese" is a piece I love quoting from, especially in my intro to new students of Mandarin Chinese. The author has made a beautiful summary of the history of languages, and then goes on to give a outside view of Mandarin as a language by exploring the patterns and evolution of the language. Even as a native speaker of the language, I did not understand the cultural and significant developmental differences between English and Chinese. Did you know that Chinese is 10,000 years more evolved than English? For those who are seriously taking up Mandarin, you must read the introduction. It is vital to how you learn Mandarin. It adds a dimension to your perspective.
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is humor humor if it hurts?

Two types of American humor really piss me off. One is laughing at the expense of someone or some group. Or sarcastic comments with no truth. It's one thing when you're laughing, and the person is laughing with you. But so much of what is said in an attempt to be funny just borders on being rude, retaliatory, and annoying. Is it really that funny? And humor is a 'WE' space thing. For it to be truly beautifully funny, what you say must make many laugh, not just youself. ;)

I'm afraid that I might just have a prerational outburst if I have to deal with that kind of humor again. It makes me want to get up, and walk away from everything. It makes me think very badly of people I call my friends, almost to the point where I actually loathe them, but at the same time I just want to cry and get furious.

My heart gets so heavy in trying to deal with this. I'm tossed between feeling all this and thinking that I must have some ego issues if I can't take a little of their brand of humor here and there. Yet I feel such a resistance to the idea of having to learn to like or even just play along just to keep things simple. And in the end it isn't so simple anymore and I'm left with a silent and helpless rage.

In some ways, I've stopped feeling because of this helplessness. And now I notice that it isn't all the time, it's just in environments where there is no space to feel. I feel as if American ideas about space has become completely mixed up. They give you plenty of space in the physical, intellectual and sensual (by this I mean kinesthetic or visceral) realm, but no space in the psychological, emotional or sexual realms. Where as in other cultures, and with many of my closest friends, it is quite the opposite. There are no issues in strongly challenging ideas, in criticizing convictions, while I've found that when I do that here, I am told that I lack skillful means in conveying my opinions.
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yuck. talking about verses embodying.

The ways in which individualistic societies try to manifest cultivistic attributes in their communities makes me strangely uncomfortable. The feeling is quite akin to drinking milk that has just spoiled. It appears to me as a need to stroke ones ego in an artificial sense of belonging somewhere. And instead of genuine moments of deep intimacy, all we have is a collection of fragmented, and distracted openness. Attacking symptoms of a felt need, society thinks it is making progress. When perhaps instead, it is creating grooves in inconvenient places (bad fengshui) and not healthy or beneficial for all, each, and One.
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community straddler

I am a community straddler.

Sébastien Paquet's concept of "community straddling" from " Online Communities and the Future of Culture."

These people do not feel irrevocably bound to a particular community. They see themselves as multidimensional: as opposed to saying "I'm a doctor, don't expect me to teach you anything" or "I'm just a programmer, don't bug me with politics", they'll say "Well, right now I'm into this and that and that, and if you have something new to show me I just might take a plunge!"

"Community straddlers keep the air fresh in a community; they help keep it alive. They contribute to the exchange of ideas between cultures which would otherwise hear little about each other."

The community straddlers are the 'connectors' of social networks and quite possbily the hubs of innovation and value-creation.
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collective holons

Holons which collect together pull the overall development of all holons within the collective up to where the 'norm' is. The collective aspect of holons seem to be intrinsic to the evolutionary drive, it is a determinant of the directionality of evolution itself. If we say that the dominant (or prevailing) level of development is at blue/orange capacity, we know we can expect more and more young kids to hit worldcentric earlier than ever, given what they are growing up in and surrounded by.

If we create or allow for the emergence of integral in the collective, and let that grow it would eventually become bigger than what is dominant now, and actually 'pull' the world into integral. ['grabs you by the neck and pulls you to that level' KW in KC.] So it is also possible to encourage the growth of holons in levels beyond integral (including non-dual).

The idea that there will always be LESS people at higher stages is not absolutely true because in humans these stages are transitional, in the long term no particular age group is ever stuck at one level for very long. This does not conflict with the tenets either.

But this does mean that both 'movement' (or evolutionary drive) and the development of holons must go hand in hand; they occur simultaneously. So if we desire to see I-I and/or integral succeed, (i.e. we want movement) then the holons collectively need to be given room to grow.

Now these hubs (vs. nodes), they are not higher as I was postulating before but they have something 'extra' that makes them with the cohesiveness of a collection of holons. In our MARKETING, I'd say we must aim to find catalysts of all kinds for the development of a holon in social dimensions (or collective holons), whether they be specific individuals of higher development, tools, processes, artifacts or even systems (such as II as a business). (Is INaked an artifact, and IU a tool?)

found this interesting too:
CI - community approach to defining it